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The narcissist is quite a difficult character. The fear driving these difficult behaviours is the fear of losing admiration and potentially being exposed and shamed.
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Dr Martyn Newman - RocheMartin
Characteristics of a narcissist
operates with a deep level of emotional dyscontrol
often externalizes their emotional needs in an attempt to get gratification
exhibits traits of arrogance
displays exaggerated sense of self importance
A narcissist’s constant need for admiration can lead to them becoming an exhibitionist and risk-taker, and can ultimately result in frequent errors of judgment
Feelings for Ill Prepared Managers
can be hard to stay calm | can also be difficult to respect the person | can be easy to make judgments
Counterproductive if you are aiming for long term success!
Effective responses
don't buy into their need for admiration. Doing so is a significant mistake.
listen and be attentive when they are speaking, but avoid giving the narcissist any special treatment.
keep your responses neutral.
never argue. Feelings of anger and shame lie just beneath the surface of a narcissist. Arguments can make a relationship instantly untenable.
Finally...
don't share anything personal about your life | don't ask for advice | give any positive feedback which is a degree of indifference
Relevant Emotional Intelligence Cmpetencies
Empathy | Straightforwardness | Self-Control | Relationship Skills
Delve Deeper
James O'Boyle MBA MSc
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